There was a recent post by a friend of mine regarding an attempt to break up his relationship and it got me thinking. This particular attempt was done by someone who started posting Craigslist ads claiming to be one of the members of this monogamous couple – even going so far as to post their phone number in the ad. The goal, of course, is to plant the seed of distrust and watch to see whether the entire relationship crumbles. The trick about that, though, is that most couples who have been together a good long while? They could survive a conflict like that. They probably have enough trust to be able to objectively look at the situation. If they didn’t… well… I don’t put much stock in couples who don’t trust one another as being “lasting” things.
And the really fucked up part is the idea that if you break up a couple –you will get to pick up the pieces (whichever side of the couple you’re intent on “stealing”). “Yay! I get to be there for a broken dude! And every time he cries on my shoulder, I can smile knowing that I caused him this pain! I’m gonna make a super-good boyfriend for him now!”
Being a total cunt isn’t fashionable this year, is it?
I’ve had a few guys who have told me that if I wasn’t partnered, they’d want to date me. That’s always totally flattering, but at the same time, they acknowledge that I’m in a relationship – and that I’m happy with it. There is no curling of mustaches as they say “if something were to… HAPPEN… to your partner…” Because I really don’t want to have to cut a bitch for messing with my man.
That’s not to say that I haven’t been “messed with” before vicariously. I’ve been used in order to try to prove that friends of mine were cheating on their boyfriends BY their boyfriends. Come to think of it – I’ve had 3 people pose as me to try to get their partners to admit things that weren’t true… Comedy in that, eh? But then I’ve had bullshit stories told to my partner about me as well. It happens. I know my man is super-cool and that other guys would want to steal him. I don’t blame ya.
And I didn’t even punch your face in when I met you in that elevator. *cough*
Regardless, life is swell at this point. The next week at work should hopefully be an easy one, considering that the 4th of July is dead center in the week. Having a Wednesday off is always cool – but knowing that most of the folks in my office took the days AROUND that Wednesday off? Even better! I could use a little bit less stress with my caffeine every day.
Oh, and for the record – Sour Patch Kid Popsicles? Amazing. It’s frozen citric acid on the outside of a popsicle. It burns SO good.
my BF and I just had this happen to us, or I think this is whats happening. We have an Open relation ship that neither one of us take advantage of because we neither one feel the need to right now. I have a friend that I chat with on the Growlr app because it’s just plain easier to chat on there sometimes. Well apparently someone on there stalks my every move on the app because my bf gets a message from them every time I log in like it’s some big secret. The funny thing is half the time we are chatting about cooking or somthing like that, yes I know Growlr is an app used mostly to hook up.
That would be a super stupid thing to try on me. I’m open polyamorous. And the man I intend to meet and live with would also be open polyamorous. This would make him or me cheating on each other very close to impossible. Also if anyone wanted to date the other and not both of us, they could just ask. As long as his other bf is ok with sharing him with me, even if he’s not interested in me at all, I’m fine with any dynamic of the relationship as long as honesty is maintained.
For a second “date” my husband took me to several sex clubs to have sex with as many people as we could in a night. I was 25 and such a thing beat dinner and a movie hands down. I fell in love with him during the drive to his favorite vacation place at the time. A gay hotel resort called Parlement House in Orlando. Where he set me up with 57 guys over the weekend. (he counted, not me)
YET… guys still try the “don’t you worry that he’s traveling so much?”
Yeah. 20 years and I’m worried he’s cheating? Please. Distract him while I delete his dumb shows off of the TiVo, bitch.
These attempts to unbond my partner and I happen all too frequently for my tastes.
It’s gotten to the point where I practically expect some schmoo with zero social graces to come up to me at the bar when there’s a bear event running and whisper something shockingly offensive about my relationship. It’s like clockwork.
I got the WarHead brand popsicles. I swear they give me massive headaches within, like, 10 minutes of eating one….
Good to know I’m not alone; I’m new to this particular brand of asshattery. So this douche writes to my boyfriend ‘We’re good friends, so I think you should know Matthew’s a total slut.” My man’s response was “thank you for your concern, but we have no secrets.” Now the aforementioned douche thinks we’re all cool… I’m waiting for the chance to thank him myself by explaining what would have happened to his face if my boyfriend had left me because of him. I’m not a small dude, and I have a temper.